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Date: 07:58:31 on Monday, March 03, 2008
Name: spied upon
Subject: on anonymity

Why would someone use "husband" if I never even posted I were male or female? (original carefully worded post)

I feel assumptions were made about the sex and marital status of me, the poster. (by randy, no one else) I carefully worded my post, as this is supposed to be an anonymous forum. If I wanted my gender or my marital status as part of the information, I would have posted it. Just because a poster "feels" like it is a female or "feels" married, does not make that the case. I had no issue with any of the responses, my issue is with assumptions made, as well as compromising of anonymity. I do not see how one can assume "husband" vs. "wife", just because a poster writes in one manner or another.

I don't have bank details online, my concerns are with anything else my mate might look into. My children and I respect each others' personal rights, it is a matter of principle. I respect my mate's right to privacy, I have never even opened X's laptop. I do not look into phone bills. I don't go into X's office, the door stays shut.

My main issue of the response, as I said, was honing in on, or an assumption about another's anonymous status.

It was difficult for me to even post in here. My words were chosen carefully. It matters to me, probably not to anyone else, especially because the issue deals with feeling violated to begin with.

I do not infer it was done out of spite, it was a simple mistake of assumption. I think all of us, me included, need to be careful reading things into others' posts.

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